Monday, January 30, 2017

Check Your Stinking Thinking.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

Balance in the New Year

Achieving Life Balance for Wellness
    A life in balance encompasses all dimensions of wellness. When one area is out of balance it effects overall well- being, just like a flat tire makes steering straight and towards a destination difficult and hazardous. While physical health, exercise, and nutrition are the foundations of our energy we are a multi-dimension integration of our physical, emotional, spiritual, intellectual, occupational, social, and environmental states of being. Consequently, when we are out of alignment in one area of our lives we are not in systemic homeostasis, or not running at full optimal capacity.
    Regard this wheel as a microcosmic representation of your whole self.  Well synchronized component parts increase our capacity for wellness.

   The Seven Dimensions of Wellness

Physical:  your body’s inside -out performance, your nutrition, your sleep, your healthy habits and your energy capacity.
Emotional: is attention to having the energy to recognize and manage feelings, thought patterns and behaviors, and making them work in our best interest.
Spiritual: is about the energy associated with discovering and understanding our individual guiding principles, values and beliefs that give meaning to our existence.
Intellectual: optimizing our energy for continued learning, creativity and an ability to think critically to solve problems.
Occupational: refers to the level of satisfaction we have in our work and knowing that it has meaning.
Social: considers how well we play and communicate with others, our family, friends, colleagues, and our larger community.
Environmental: how well we harmonize with the Earth and a recognition of our personal impact.

Try this simple self evaluation to help determine which dimensions
of the wheel will get your attention first. 

Rate your wellness in each area of the wheel. Rank from 1-10 ; 10 means you are fulfilled and complete in this area of your life and a 1 means you see no fulfillment.

Select a dimension you have rated as important; a rating of five or larger and address it in the following learning activities.

Learning  Activity
Take one of the statements you checked in the physical dimension of who you are and complete the “who I am” box using self reflection, then complete the “who I aim to be” box after considering  the following  points.
·Explore your sub-conscious, see how your perceptions or your interpretation of a situation affects the way you act in the world, and therefore your outcomes.
·Figure out a better way to cope with the situation next time.
Consequences box
The “consequences”  box will be completed once you have changed your view point of the situation and practiced your new coping techniques regarding the situation. 

For example, here I have used my Physical: dimension and filled in below the Who I was and 
Who I aim to be. I can substitute any other dimension. 

Situation: My Posture
Who I am
Who I aim to be
When I look in the mirror I see my shoulders are rounded forward.

Have great posture
My coping  technique                         
Who I was
Who I am today
I  avoid mirrors.
The minute I sit at my desk, or text, or walk I will squeeze my shoulder blades together 15 times.
Who I was
Who I am today
Unwilling to explore options.
More confident and aware of body alignment and how body posture affects my attitude. My upper back feels stronger.

Cheers and have a Prosperous NewYear.

Saturday, November 26, 2016

Adyashanti - The Collapse of Wanting

Wednesday, October 5, 2016

Raising the Bar on My Happiness

 Interesting to note that a good education does little to raise your sense of satisfaction in life. I suppose ignorance IS bliss. Happiness researcher Dr. Ed Diener suggests that once your basic needs are met, additional income does little for fulfillment. However, in a Times poll those individuals making $35,000 a year or less were significantly less happy. Both happiness researchers Deiner and Seligman conclude that the highest level of happiness comes from strong ties with family and friends.
Here are some practical suggestions by UCLA researcher Dr. Lynbomirsky to revitalize your level of happiness:
  1. Count your blessings – make a gratitude journal where every week you enter the things you are currently grateful for, from little to bigger.
  2. Practice acts of random kindness- remember how good it felt to let that harried driver into your lane, or let someone go ahead of you in the grocery line. Be generous. Get connected to others.
  3. Savor joyful moments daily – the sunset, the rolling hills, the puppy, or any number of daily things we appreciate.
  4. Thank a mentor – do this in person.
  5. Learn forgiveness – this is the most generous gesture. Let go of the anger; move on to a life not bogged down by the past.
  6. Invest time and energy in friends and family.
  7. Take care of your body – get sleep, exercise, and eat healthy foods to stimulate positive hormones that enhance your moods. 
  8. Develop strategies for coping with stress, hardship, and things not going as planned. At some point you have to deal with the issues. Better to establish new pathways than continue to suffer.
Dr. Seligman believes lasting happiness comes from figuring out your strengths and deploying them. Deploy away. Start today. 

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

Youthfulness, Is It Really About Age?

Recently I was observing an old man I had not seen in some time. I had never before thought of him as old. What was it about him now that made him look all of his 80 years? It was not the white hair, or the loss of his figure, or the bigger nose and longer ears; it was the lack of vitality, energy, and lack of passion for the life around him. His essence had left his heart, and his being. All that he was, was dormant. As I contemplated this I wondered how I would make the distinction between youthfulness and oldness.
Youthfulness is about being vigorous, flexible, fresh, simplistic, playful, natural, passionate, engaged, juiced up, enthusiastic, spirited, full of motion and action. 
These words no longer fit this man. It is not that he is in the land of the living dead, but the pilot light is very dim. It made me sad, not for the wrinkles he now bore, but for the powerlessness. Youthfulness is as much a state of being as it is a physical state. You can be old at 30 and young at 80. As we age our joints wear out, our body reflects overindulgence, and oxidation causes wrinkles, but our core essence is still intact.

We are miraculously amazing complex and resilient creatures that are capable of rejuvenating our heart and soul, if we so choose. If we continue unhealthy habits, one day we’ll wake up so far behind that cleaning up seems insurmountable, but it is not. There is always a light of hope burning inside of us. We know that we can be better than we are and even the slightest movement in the right direction can motivate and encourage. No one wants a mediocre life. Stop watching the television, and start making something happen.

Youthfulness is not about being a Baywatch babe. It is all about celebrating you, and the uniqueness you contribute to the world. Cherish that one and only you. Worship yourself by living up to your potential at any age. We are all so gifted to have the power of choice and to be able to act on it. Recapture your youthfulness. Lose the weight, do something daring, spontaneous, and fresh, go to Europe on your own, buy the Harley, jump out of an airplane, find a new passion, or rekindle an old one. Live it up and rejuvenate. 

Saturday, August 20, 2016

Words are Windows (or They're Walls)

"I feel so sentenced by your words, 
I feel so judged and sent away, 
Before I go I've got to know,
Is that what you mean to say?"

This is Ruth Bebermeyer's poem shared in its completeness in Marshall Rosenberg's book "Nonviolent Communications, (A Language of Life.)"

If the words we use impact delivery and our goal is collaborative relationships then we need to frame our messages accordingly. Consider that a single word can create a positive space for communication.

The following are examples of words that can empower or discourage.

We or I, rather than You, We is team work, I takes responsibility, and You points the finger of judgment.

Should or Could, Should is controlling, Could is open to possibilities.

But or And, But discounts what was previously said, And is inclusive.

Try or Will, Try is an excuse for not succeeding, Will is a commitment. 

Common language is clear and simple and does not exclude any listeners. Using jargon, industry specific terms, or acronyms can create confusion. Choose your language based on your listeners and seed effective and efficient communications. 

Consider that our own self talk is the best place to start. We want to think Inclusively rather than Exclusively. 

Inclusive thinking means we go with the flow, honor the rights of others, and maybe enjoy all parts of ourselves. 

An Exclusive mindset means we are trying to get rid of, control, deny, or interpret something powerfully, requiring lots of energy. Being Exclusive can be unhealthy. 

The future depends on strengthening the hidden wholeness within us. Operating from the wholeness within takes,
  • Mindful awareness of our negative self talk
  • A moment of truth by the observing power within that recognizes the intrusive thought or behavior
  • Understanding that reframing an intrusive thought is like being stuck in the mud, and taking a false bait. 
  • Reframing is power lifting, the more we do it the stronger and easier it gets to navigate the muddy waters.
Give yourself 15 minutes to refocus and resist your negative self talk and the noise in your head. Create delay before you perform on the past wired thinking or behavior by engaging in a constructive behavior or activity of your choosing. 

If we want peace in the world we need to seek peace within ourselves first, then, within our families, communities, and all life because we are the essence of all that is life. 

Love and Peace 


Wednesday, August 10, 2016

The New Food Label

With 68.8% of Americans overweight or obese does making the Calories and the Nutrition Facts on food labels larger and bolded have any consequence on the ever rising US health problem? According to the FDA this change "will help people make informed decisions" about the foods they consume. I wonder how many Americans peruse nutritional labels, or can even conprehend their value. While some studies show that displaying calorie count on lunch menus does cause a 100 calorie choice deficit, I have to wonder if this is a choice made by the already health conscious individual, and does this behavior have any carryover to packing food labels.

Let us pretend that these minute changes have value. How do we drive people to view them? Is this like the carriage without the horse? 

On the upside, 

  • if you are concerned about your vitamin D, Calcium, Iron, and Potassium intake you can find these on the new label. 
  • I do like the change to add "total sugar" and the "added sugar" designations. 
  • "Calories from fat" has been removed due to the hoopla around the saturated fat studies, I suppose. Curiously thought, cholesterol remains on the label. 
  • The serving sizes will also be adapted to reflect what people are expected to consume. 

So, if you read nutrition labels you will enjoy the revisions, and if you don't maybe this blurb will make you curiousier and curiouser.